If we want to experience love and belonging, we must believe we are worthy of love and belonging.
Me - In shame mode, it is really tough to get love and belonging. Shame scalps the roots of LOVE. It eliminates empathy and connection. (Shame is very self centered.) Shame does open the door for vulnerability. I think, at my worst, I had periods of time where I slipped below shame. I quit caring and found myself completely disconnected and numbed out. My feelings and emotions were gone. Like being under water. Things were happening around me and it didn't always make sense. Now, looking back, it was equivalent to trying to untangle a mess of wires as big as a beach ball. I'd finally find the wire I need, try and pull it through, untangle a group of wires that were in the way, struggle, continuing to untangle random wires only to get lost having forgotten why and which wire I needed. I have ADD, for which I take adderall. It's made all the difference in the world. It's brought me clarity which I didn't have before. I've been able to work through my mountain of shame, which has opened the door for me to claim my worthiness.
Me - In shame mode, it is really tough to get love and belonging. Shame scalps the roots of LOVE. It eliminates empathy and connection. (Shame is very self centered.) Shame does open the door for vulnerability. I think, at my worst, I had periods of time where I slipped below shame. I quit caring and found myself completely disconnected and numbed out. My feelings and emotions were gone. Like being under water. Things were happening around me and it didn't always make sense. Now, looking back, it was equivalent to trying to untangle a mess of wires as big as a beach ball. I'd finally find the wire I need, try and pull it through, untangle a group of wires that were in the way, struggle, continuing to untangle random wires only to get lost having forgotten why and which wire I needed. I have ADD, for which I take adderall. It's made all the difference in the world. It's brought me clarity which I didn't have before. I've been able to work through my mountain of shame, which has opened the door for me to claim my worthiness.